As the Resident Slut of my friends, I always get asked, “What kind of condoms do you use, Kyla ?” This is usually followed and/or preceded by, “Ugh, I hate condoms !”
Qurl, I love condoms. And I totally get why you hate them.
- Lots of people haven’t been educated on the proper use of condoms. That makes them kinda scary. But, trust me, they’re not scary ! They don’t come with sharp teeth, and clowns don’t pop out when you open the package. Take a moment to watch the video linked to in this post, and do some of your own education via The Internets !
- “They don’t feel good !” “I/my partner can’t feel anything !” First, quit your dang whining. Of course having sex with a barrier isn’t going to feel like it does without. I know — I love me some unprotected sex. But if you want to protect yourself/your partner, you gotta suck it up and wrap your junk. If you want to protect yourself and have a partner who refuses to use condoms and isn’t open to discussion about it because they “can’t feel anything” — pull your panties back up and get out of there. Your boundaries need to be respected, and guilting you into putting your health at risk is not respect.
- Mood = RUINED. No, the mood is not ruined. You know what ruins the mood more than condoms ? A burning peehole. I love watching my partner reach over for that shiny gold square, tear it open, grab their cock, and slide a condom on. The added anticipation is amazing ! Also, the more you practice putting a condom on you/your partner, the faster you can get at it, and if you’re not into the anticipation like I am, it’ll seem like no time at all before you’re all up in each other’s business all sexylike. Always keep condoms with you, even if you’re not “planning” on having sex. Keep them next to your bed, in your purse, fill a bowl with them on your dinning room table.
- They’re expensive ! They totally are. However, you can go to any Planned Parenthood and get them for free. If you do not have access to a PP facility, ask your friends, your parents, someone you trust to help you. Heck, try this: “Donate a $1 to keep me safe !” $10 will get you a small arsenal at your local pharmacy. Remember, babies and abortions are way, way more expensive !
- “I’m embarrassed to ask for them at the store/buy them.” I will never understand why these needs to be under lock & key with the sharp objects, but, unfortunately, that is the case at many pharmacies. I mean, if we’re gonna steal something, at least let it be something that is beneficial to our health, dude. Again, lean on the people you trust. Maybe your partner if they’re willing to get them ? Heck, ask a stranger in the store if they’ll help you ! Also, don’t forget that these are super accessible online and typically come in nondescript packages, right to your door. :)
So, there are some of my personal thoughts/tips on/about condoms ! I am, by no means, a sex expert or anything trained in this field. I’m just a gal who likes to fuck and often times enjoys the use of a barrier while doing so.
Oh, and my condom of choice ? Lifestyles SKYN. Even if you’re not allergic to latex, these latex-free condoms are the bomb diggity — super conductive of heat, and virtually smell-free !
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Reblogging because I feel as though this is vital information for your everyday mind.
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